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Katie Marquette's avatar

I love the list of sleep remedies - I especially love the Greek alphabet idea (now if only I knew it). I have struggled with sleep a long time, as well. My husband can fall asleep in about 10 seconds and also has no problem the next day if he has less sleep than normal. When I get less than 6 or 7 hours, I'm a wreck. You can imagine how my mental health went once I had small children. It's part of why I absolutely had to stop following crunchy parenting influencers who seemed beyond blase about sleep. I put in some serious boundaries and only then did things improve! That being said, there's some inevitability to sleeplessness as a parent, and probably also if you're not! A while back I had a great opportunity to produce a piece about sleeplessness nights and the nightmares, dreams, hopes, poetry, et all they inspire. https://www.goethe.de/prj/tbp/en/eps/thn.html

Nowadays, my rituals tends to be - kids in bed no later than 830 (ideally). Phone off/devices off by 9 (unless husband and I are watching a movie). Hot shower, Gregorian or Byzantine chant, a page or two of the Gospels, 'fun' reading (only fiction at night, often something light), and I usually sleep holding a rosary and drift off saying Hail Marys in my head. I'm usually out by 11 and up by 6 and feel okay. Sleeping pills and melatonin have sometimes been necessary but I can't stand the morning grogginess so I try to avoid when I can.

Thanks for thinking on this topic, Griffin - it's important, and yes very impactful to our spiritual lives!

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Olivia Marstall's avatar

"Most of my sleep struggles are due to anxiety struggles." You and me both, man. I'm such a chronic insomniac that it has, on a couple occasions, affected my safety on the road. I don't understand people who can just lie down and fall asleep, but I envy them: I'm 100% in the camp of "not being able to turn my brain off" when I get into bed, whether it's general lowgrade stress about life, trying to plan for stuff that's coming up, overthinking stuff I've already done, or mounting paranoia related to nothing at all. (Anxiety is fun.) This was such a helpful post, and I loved how you reframed the conversation in terms of the spiritual life. I've been trying to work on my sleep hygiene, but I always think of it in terms of modern health culture, or future productivity--"if I don't sleep, I'll be less effective at X and Y and won't be able to do as much the next day", rather than as a human rhythm through which we can offer ourselves to God. I've started trying to 1) journal 2) practice some form of contemplative prayer (like the Examen) and then 3) read for a while before bed, (as well as cutting back on coffee 💔), and it DOES help, but it also feels like so much work for something that should just be "a normal thing that people are supposed to be able to do"?? I guess all habits are like that, though: eating well or exercising well or praying well...it does take work.

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